How To Make Friends In A New Place – Real Tips From Readers

So you may have read that we moved. We moved from an area that we had been in for over 30 years to a brand new area where we do not know a soul. Back at home I knew that if I left the house I was going to run into someone that I knew. It was a guarantee! It didn’t mater where I was going! After living in a 20 mile radius for 30 years we knew everyone! At times it was annoying but usually I loved it. :-) I would meet up with my church friends about once a week and my best friend several times a week. Coffee meet ups were my “me” time every week!

Now I am here. It’s new. It’s scary. It’s lonely.

I have watched my kids since we moved. They have both jumped in feet first. Little lady is planning her first sleep over! It is so easy for them to make friends. Maybe it is because they are not afraid of rejection or just being themselves.

This is not really a “how to” post. It is just me being REAL. I do not have any answers for you. In fact, I asked for YOUR help on the Facebook page. I asked what advice you had on how to make friends in a new place. Many of you gave me wonderful ideas! Here are a few:


  •  Get involved in what you like. Volunteer so you can meet like-minded people. It’s never easy, but it is possible. We are a military family and have started over many times.- Sarah Curran Schaal
  • Oh girl! We moved to this little town 9 years ago! It took me about 6 years to make friends here. Finding a great church home was the key for me. I love my girls and don’t know what I would do without them. -Brandi Morgan
  • I joined a few meet up groups when I moved. It helped me get out of the house and meet other moms. I also volunteered right away in our new church to meet people. -Twingle Mommy
  • Volunteer work, and get involved in community organizations. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket, if there is a particular activity that you enjoy, join a group for it or start one.-Jennifer Hatfield
  • I used meetup and joined some mother’s groups. Went to free “playdates” at the library. Joined in my community social events. Church. I’m not shy at all. -Lisa Carey
  • Church, Community groups, Library classes, PTO, Volunteer. General Networking. You meet people everywhere, the grocery store..being a “coupon fairy works” lol I’ve meet a lot of people by offering them a coupon. Kristen Jill
  • I am not part of a military family(anymore) but my husband is German. We moved here about a year and a half ago. It took me a while to let go of my anxiety of a new language. When I did people started gravitating to me. Weather worldwide or state to state. Just be you. (Moved military as an army brat my whole life)let go of anxieties. I met a woman whom I feel I could be lifelong friends with about a year ago. She is from Portugal. I am apparently her first real friend too. Open up. Don’t be shy. Just talk. Cooking, good books, the munchkins, any local farmers markets? Those are good starter topics. -Jennifer McKinney
  • When moving to an area with a different culture the place where there is familiarity is church family. Find one where you feel comfortable. -Lynette Cochran Busceme

I LOVE Jennifer’s tip to “Just be you. Let go of anxieties!”

Other popular answers for finding like minded people:

  • Volunteer
  • Church
  • Meet up
  • Library
  • Community Events

I agree. These are great ideas! Thank you! For anyone else that may be feeling lonely and scared, try these ideas. There are fabulous people all over this world! You will find people just like you if you step out and open your self up to the opportunity!

Do you have other ideas? What has worked for you?